Hell, it's about time!

Damn, just realized that it has been so long since i wrote my last blog. I am actually at work  right now, so gotta keep this short.

So nothing new happen really. Just been working and looking for job. Got an interview with City of Arcadia in two days, hope I get hired. the pay is double of what I make now.

港女

Credit of this article goes to my friend, Wendy Chan

星期日檔案的港女特輯引起不少討論，身為香港土生土長的女性之一 (“港女” =)，理應站出來力證港女並非如此不濟。但看完節目後，感到港女實在存在不少性格缺憾，特輯內的受訪女性似乎也完全沒有反省過，大條道理將所有問題合理化。寫這篇文章只是希望可以探討一下，用女性角度抒發一下對港女的感受，希望港女們有所反思:

指控1: 貪錢
前主播發表其偉論，表示拍拖時曾問男友：「將來結婚後會唔會比晒d錢我管?」聽到的時候, 我的第一個想法是：「嘩, 如果我係你男朋友, 我覺得好恐怖!!」前主播言論一出引起不少網友批評，她即提出其「大道理」解釋這是一個愛的承諾，表示兩人無分你我，亦顯示丈夫是個不計較的好男人云云。這點恕我不能同意，無分你我並不代表不能財政獨立，我和丈夫拍拖不久已認定對方，我們雖然有共同物業、聯名戶口用作家庭支出之用，我每月會入數至該戶口(時多時少 =P)，其他財務一概獨立處理。我們並沒有斤斤計較，出外消遣吃飯「邊個銀包有錢邊個比」，shopping買東西自己付錢，有時也會互送禮物予對方。假如真的是無分你我，分開兩個戶口放有什麼問題？為什麼丈夫一定要上繳收入？我想到的原因包括：對丈夫的理財能力有懷疑, 覺得他會亂花錢 (最得體的說法)；怕他用大筆金錢「包二奶」或買禮物給其他異性；怕他不善投資比人「老襯」……得罪一句，無論如何也是「管家婆上身」，其實有哪個男人想這樣，其丈夫大概也只是無可奈何 (或者真是很愛她吧!!)

指控2: 物質主義, 愛名牌
愛美是女人/人的天性，負擔得起的買高品質名牌貨犒賞一下自己，本身也喜歡購物的我當然認為沒有問題。然而，如果將自信建立在物質之上，就大有問題。很想問香港女孩一個問題，當你願意用上一個月薪金去買一個名牌手袋的同時，你有沒有花錢去自我增值、去增加自己的自信和學養？認識不少出色的女性朋友，總是不斷學習求進步，她們不需要挽名牌袋也能表現自信和散發吸引力。除了買名牌，希望港女可以嘗試將錢拿去唸書進修、學大提琴、學佛羅明高、學日文、學畫畫，沒有錢學東西也可以多看不同類型的書籍(不是八卦雜誌，圖書館是有很多免費任看的好書 =P)、逛逛博物館(價錢十分便宜)、去做義工接觸一下社會不同階層，也能夠提升修養。去旅行的時候，不要只懂去Bangkok做Spa和到東京血拚，其實到北京的胡同逛逛、到印度感受一下古文明歷史、到西班牙看看高第的建築，也是很開心和有趣的經驗，也許比買一個袋來得更物有所值。請緊記，華衣美服不是不能買，但沒有修養的人，就算全身名牌也不會變美麗。

指控3: 公主病
「香港男士不夠gentlemen, 唔幫人推門拉椅，出幾次街之後就唔送人返屋企」這是不少香港女性的投訴。我承認有風度的男士確實更吸引，但港女的「奉旨」態度卻也令人吃不消。一邊高呼男女平等，另一邊廂卻在有「著數」時扮弱者，想繼續享受女性特權。我看不出為什麼與男性朋友吃飯一定要由男方付錢，除非對方太多錢，否則大家都是「打工仔」，A A 制有什麼問題? 難道男士們又搬出一堆三從四德的東西要求港女做家務、煮飯煲湯給他們吃？我們都不是公主，男友有風度是bonus, 請學習欣賞他們的優點罷！

指控4: 減肥瘦身
女性注重儀容體態無可厚非，做運動keep fit亦對健康有益，曾經在街上見過二百磅女人在街邊吃魚蛋和煎釀三寶，狀甚恐怖，覺得她很有減肥的必要。但香港女孩追求的似乎有點過份，希望自己擁有天橋上的模特兒身型，令香港現在可謂一遍「骨瘦如柴」。自己一向貪吃，有數次與男性朋友吃飯，他們都興高采烈的叫了一桌食物，說很少與女孩子吃飯可以如此盡興。雖然我並不認為這是讚美 =P, 但他們異口同聲地告訴我他們與女朋友吃飯根本不能叫多幾碟, 因為女友吃兩口就說飽, 更遑論去吃飯後甜品。其實經驗所知，女性瘦身是因為互相比較多於是因為男朋友或丈夫喜歡，恕我孤陋寡聞，我未曾認識過一個男人是喜歡 “火柴人”的。

曾經聽過有不少女性批評女明星，那些批評個人認為並不合理 (甚至離奇)，例如陳慧琳叫做肥??薛凱琪叫醜?? 總之她們是有本事將所有靚女的「缺點」揪出批評一番。由於她們認為陳慧琳肥, 難怪要不斷瘦身瘦身再瘦身，直至比陳慧琳瘦，這種行為實在令人費解。

結論
舉出上述例子是希望港女能夠反省一下，好好學習欣賞別人(不論是女明星、朋友、男友、丈夫或身邊的人)的優點，而不是只懂得埋怨和批評，在雞蛋裡挑骨頭。假如希望增加吸引力找到高質素的另一半，更應該自我增值提升修養，而不是盲目追求外在美，不斷去瘦身做facial買衫買名牌，錢是買不到氣質的！

California Prop 8

For those of your who doesn't reside in California, there was a Proposition 8 being vote on the General Election.

Prop 8 is about banning same-sex marriage and amend it to the California State Constitution.

Let's not start with what I vote. Let's start looking into this prop itself.

YES: They using a case in another state to argue that voting YES on prop 8 will protect the children because then the school won't able to teach kids about same-sex marriage in 2nd grade, and that kids will have plenty of time to learn about sexuality later. They also mention that there is domestic partnership in California that granted the rights to gay and lesbian couples the same rights as married couples.Prop 8 is about protecting traditional marriage.

NO: They argue that this is a discriminatory proposition against one group of people, the gay and lesbian. It is to eliminate the basic of fellow Californians. It has also counter the arguement by the Proposition's supporters that it has nothing to do with school teaching about homosexuality, and it is not about whether domestic partnership can enjoy same right as married couple, but it is about eliminating rights and discriminating one group of people.

Research: I did some light research and find out that, at this day, domestic partnership does enjoy all the rights as married couples, and also that California Law reserve the rights to parents to remove their kids if their teaching is against what the parents belief. I have also looked under the endorser for YES on Prop 8, I will say about 80-85% of them are religious organization; and for the endorser for NO on Prop 8, they contain numerous organization and also quite a few of religious organization (to my surprise).

My View: Alright, to be honest and I have nothing to hide, I do believe that a man should be a man and be masculine which means no gay. BUT I also believe that it is not my right to take away other people's freedom. Prop 8 was proposed, in my opinion, not because of protecting marriage. It was about adding a law to prevent others to live a life that they dont' believe in. I can't say that I support same-sex marriage, but I do support protecting the right of the people. For the protecting children arguement used by the supporters of Prop 8, I disagree with them that it is an act to protect children, the only way to protect children is to educate them, to let them know that it is ok to be different. Shielding children from such knowledge will only attach a stigma to it. It is about respecting yourself and respecting others. For example, creation theory vs. big bang theory, who can say they are right on each side? But by educating children and exloring both sides, only then we will learn more.

We need laws to protect people's right to an extend not to infringe with others', so everyone can enjoy their liberty and respect others at the same time. WE NEED NO LAWS TO TELL PEOPLE HOW TO LIVE THEIR LIFE JUST BECAUSE THEY HAVE DIFFERENT BELIEFS FROM US.

I VOTE NO ON PROP 8!

Election Day!

Well, haven't updated this for AGES, maybe I will start again.

So today is election day and this is the first time I exercise my citizen right to vote. I voted for McCain, well, more like for Palin, but Republican lost, it's okay. As long as Obama can lead this country to a more prosper nation.

So I am still looking for a job, still haven't heard anything back from all the resumes I sent yet. Hopefully I will get the city job that I applied.

Halloween, I went to Orchid.. you guys shouldn't be surprised, that's my regular place, lol. After Orchid, I went to 2 house party for 2 nights in a row. Kinda exhausted now, lol. We had fun though and finally put my ghille suit into good use. I "spied" on Johnny busting the cube on someone. He got great success on it, just not enough follow up. A good start nonetheless.

New week is here and Thanks Giving is approaching. Parents are coming back from Hong Kong. Got a whole lot to do including continue to look for job. Good luck to me and God Bless America.

Back to the workforce

After 2 months long vacation, I am back to the workforce again, HA!HA!

First trip, Florida, going to attend a conference for 6 days, then gotta go to Vancouver for another class.

I need to find out where is the location.....